Protect Love
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Love
I lost my sleep last night. They
loved each other. She gave up everything to be with a guy who was just 19. He
married her. He did not force her into slavery. He did not force her into
prostitution. He did not rape her. He did not blackmail her parents’ for their
‘so-called’ wealth. He did not leave her on the streets after few days. He did
not harass her. He lived with her with full optimism and only hope as their
impartial companion. He found a way to be safe in a different city and ensured
safety for his wife. All I see here is TRUE LOVE. Sad they had to run away from
their homes but why would anyone do that? That’s because there were so many
inequalities set within the system. My major inequality is regarding the law
angle here. Why should the Women’s marital age be different from that of Men?
If you think, a man is not eligible to get married at the age of 20, why and how
can the girl be eligible in any case to get married at 18?
When I hear people talk
about this case in trains (yes, at least we still discuss current affairs) or read
about it in twitter, FB pages. I keep hearing a criticism they were immature.
Wait a second, do we know what the hardships he went through to fall in love,
make a relationship happen, brew trust such that a girl (who is not immature)
to believe in him completely, find a way to marry her, negotiate so many
financial and personal blockades to live in Chennai, not exploit anyone else
and avoid being exploited by bad folks, be compassionate enough to state that
he does not dislike his mother in law and among many other things - FACE INDIAN
MEDIA and INDIAN POLITICIANS eye to eye when the whole state is debating their
personal intimate decisions after a district is left ravaged by caste bigotry
and the burden of his Father-in-law’s suicide to be handled emotionally within
the couple’s limited privacy. Can anyone say ‘he is Immature’? (Sorry! he WAS
immature)? For those who carelessly comment on online news website – “Why can't people just marry within their castes?
These types of incidents can be avoided. People do marry outside their castes
without thinking, and cause disharmony within all communities. We cannot go
against mother nature.” I would like to say why
did not the girl’s father think – “what will happen if I commit suicide? Will the
marriage be undone? Will there be any communal riots if I commit suicide due to
this issue? Will there be innocents killed because of my act?....” I honestly believe the
girl’s father was IMMATURE to commit suicide at his age, even though he might
not have foreseen the riot. Wasn’t he the IMMATURE person? Couldn’t he have had
more faith and courage to face the issue in a matured manner? Even we can argue
on the other side, will that solve the issue of Free will and freedom of any
soul who cares if they are minors or majors?
Meanwhile,
I was all the while admiring the courage of the guy to stand before the camera
and be strong through all the stupid questions asked at him by everyone around.
I was wondering how he will be protected after all this. Especially, if you
know a political party is after you, anyone including the hardcore criminals
goes underground. But this guy was always standing there alone; don’t you think
he was not brave enough? (I know few creepy minds will say he was FOOLISH)
IGNORE THEM! I believe I know what he was thinking – a fact every guy who had
to elope normally goes through – “I did not do anything wrong. I was forced to
do few things but they were not wrong. I will fight for my rights and I will
stand by my decision.” In a country where our election leaders forget what they
say, what they preach and what their ideals stand for, you find a genuine
person there. Was being truthful to his emotions so detrimental? How long are
we going to continue to judge others by the actions that we DO NOT UNDERSTAND
NOR CARE ABOUT?
Let me be clear about my
frustration, I am writing here not because of a boy of a certain caste got
killed. NO! I am writing here because even in 2013 people cannot live with love
and happiness. In this open world, we are still bound by archaic mindsets. We
still wish that all our problems will vanish and we can restart a new life
tomorrow. We all wish that I want to just close my eyes and my ecosystem gets
restored, beggars outside my street vanish, someone will speak about equality
and give me my due respect and dignity and when I open my eyes your wish will
come true. For our sake, I have to tell you the truth – even amongst all the
tons of crazy fairy tales, genius level epics and thousands of religious
stories NOT ONE mentioned that things happen by someone’s mere wishes. You may
pray as long as you want. Being a part of star dust myself, I guarantee you –
Your wish has nothing to do with reality.
You do not get to see any other
major parties, religious institutions, communities coming forward to raise
voice against the honor crimes. Folks, I have to say if any person does not
understand love they are not human, how do you expect a party to have any value
if it cannot even tolerate free love?
I am here not for a party, not for
a caste, definitely not for a religion, never for a race or class representation.
I am writing this blog for the sake of LOVE and whoever has the courage to
love. I am here for LOVE and LOVERS. Turning the angle about lovers, we see so
many puking faces at the mention of their “types”. Why? Their standard
criticisms as follows –
Cheating angle –> who cheats who? We should bring up our kids
with proper exposure to all ideas and teach them most of our experiences. No
one can stop someone from falling in love whether they are kids, adolescents,
adults, married, single, straight, old or on death bed. You just equip your
kids with the knowledge to handle things as per their wish. Educate, share
experiences and let your kid grow up in a smart, loving environment. They will
be better off then. Do not hide your laziness while blaming it on the real
fraudsters.
Divorce -> Another major criticism is that people do love marriages
and end up in divorces. Even though I am not a happy person when it comes to
divorce issues, but doesn’t divorce actually represents the concept of Love
marriage itself? You choose who you want to be with or without! So I am not
surprised by Love Marriage couples ending up in divorce. However, I do not
understand the divorce in an arranged-marriage couple. Weren’t you supposed to
go with it and be understanding, compassionate, “develop love” (as if it can
happen always, it happens rarely), all after knotting and sleeping together? Weren’t
you supposed to trust your parents and just go with it? Why the double
standard? Government and others see divorce as an anti-social thing. It is not.
It is the prime indicator of freedom in a society. A woman especially with kids
opting for divorce represents she is bold enough not to tolerate bullshit and
is equipped enough to thrive on her own with her own rules. She still has the
hope in her heart to strive for a better future, greater love, sex and a wider
family. So let us focus on equipping young guys and girls with such powers.
Immaturity angle -> I can handle and understand the immaturity
(whatever that is) shown by young lovers. But no one should digest the
immaturity shown by so called “mature” in the wake of coming up with ridiculous
reasons to oppose love.
Nuisance angle -> Phew! We look at rotting rivers, open
manholes, garbage dumps, few politicians, etc and turn our heads and go. We do
nothing about it. But when it comes to PDA, lovers holding their hands or doing
real adult stuff on public places, we all arise in unison. Protest! Damage
public properties… Vote for parties which say I will not let mannequins wear
underwear! What is so wrong in seeing love, showing love, exhibiting love? I
still cannot comprehend.
Cause Disharmony -> Who exactly causes disharmony, the lovers?
How? We should realize that couples by themselves do not sit around, plot in
the darkness or hire goons to cause disharmony. It’s always their parents who
do all the disharmonious things. Parents and other elders should approach any
adolescent love issues, early age marriages, teen age births in matured manner
(which to be honest many parents these
days do – they do deal with it patiently and maturely) But however, in this
case the exceptions somehow always seem to have a raised voice and better
limelight regarding their digressions. Why not actual parents who have dealt
with these things in real life or close quarters come up and educate others how
to handle these issues in civilized manner? Once again, we find the elders of
our society lacking in being proactive.
Yes! This post is a one sided
argument. I scourged the web and found no one wrote what I felt at my heart and
thus I restarted my blogging career from where I left off at InfyBlogs! Believe
in Love, Worship only Love, Fight for Love, Teach Love, Exhibit Love, Let
everything else fall and most of all please LOVE.
Bye.
Mopper.
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Labels: Caste, Casteism, Honor Crime, Ilavarasan, Love, Love Marriage, Lovers, Parents Lovers, Society
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